Genesis 2:22-24Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
My husband and I recently celebrated our 7th year wedding anniversary and though it sounds corny, I just have to to say it: ‘Wow, 7 years and it feels like yesterday!‘ I or we are no experts in marriage but I think we have learned (at least) 7 things through the years.
Getting married is easy
“Getting married is easy. Staying married is more difficult.” That’s what author Harold Sala of Guidelines wrote. He further adds that “being happily married is life’s greatest challenge. Why? Lots of reasons—unrealistic expectations, selfishness, taking advantage of the other person, our refusal to communicate, to compromise, and to forgive.”
Marriage begins in waiting for God’s perfect partner even though it seems to take forever. I love listening to love stories and Robert and Nancy Wolgemuth’s is just beautiful!
Anchor your marriage relationship
When I asked my husband to give me two things that he would like to share on being married, he said:
The only way for two imperfect people to build a strong and lasting marriage is to anchor the relationship in the perfect love demonstrated by Jesus Christ.
Read the Bible, Worship and Pray
The best advice on marriage or any other matter including handling your finances are in the Bible. Read the Bible, worship and pray together. You’ll be surprised at how God’s grace and love can bring peace and joy in your home. Oh, but both of you will also need your own personal time of study and prayer too. Keep your marriage sacred and holy.
As a couple, we consider ourselves as partners in the ministry and we desire to help each other grow and mature in our walk and faith in God. We are both works in progress and it is nice to walk alongside each other.
Laugh With Each Other
My husband is a witness to my many bloopers and every time I share my funny experiences, he would burst into laughter. Then, I would say “You’re laughing at me!” and his response would be “I’m not laughing at you, I’m laughing with you.” Then, we would laugh even more.
Support Each Other
Find your own interests, develop your skills and talents and be each others’ #1 supporter. We are our own person, I have my own interests and he has his. I’m into crafts, artsy stuff and he’s into sports, paintball and… watching k-dramas, big time. LOL. We don’t have children so we don’t have after-school activities, piano recitals or game nights to go to but nevertheless, we have a busy schedule. Remember that no matter how busy you are, you have to make time for each other.
Patience is Key
This is my husband speaking to all the husbands out there: It is a must that we have patience with each other (especially when the toilet seat is up, the laundry basket is overflowing and the kitchen sink is full)
Love Each Other
That’s what both our parents tell us and we have every reason to believe them because they have been married for 49 and 50 years! With love comes respect and trust which may sometimes be easy to forget especially if you’ve been with each other for so long. Be each others BFF – I am his and he is mine.
There is more to share but I’ll save that for next time. Being married is fun and it’s not always peachy but you got to work hard. Keep the faith. Keep the love.